CV on our sleeves

You ever have one of those days when you feel like everyone in the world is stupid?  A bunch of self-centered pricks?  And what’s worse is when they decide they need to share their wisdom by providing advice, either online or in real life.

That got me to thinking, There are so many bloggers out there that provide advice about relationships, life, and just about everything under the sun, myself included.  But should they?

If you were going to get financial advice, you’d want to see someone with qualifications, experience, and with a lot of financial success.  You’d want to see degrees on the wall, a nice car parked out front, and a suit that isn’t off the rack.  You’d want to know they’re the right person to give you advice.  They need to be a representation of the place you want to be.  They’ve made it, so they can advise you on how to make it.  On the other hand, if you showed up and noticed a bunch of overdue bills on the desk, an eviction notice on the door, you probably wouldn’t take the financial advice very seriously.

What would the our virtual world be like if bloggers that provided advice had to post a CV, demonstrate their experiences, show their qualifications.  For all you Americans that don’t recognize the term, CV stands for Curriculum Vitae.  It’s basically an expansive resume.

If the blogger in question is giving relationship advice, we should know they represent that place we want to be, right?  They should be a success story if they’re going to advise others on how to succeed, right?  They should be happily ensconced in whatever kind of relationship they’re advising about.  If they’re giving poly advice they should be in a successful poly situation, if they’re giving straight dating advice they should have their own success story.  If we know they’re single and miserable, would you take their advice seriously?  Should you?  Or should they be more of a cautionary tale, every word taken with a grain of salt?

That also made me think.  I’ve provided a lot of advice over the years, but should anyone take me seriously?  I’m intelligent, educated, have a good job and decent relationships with my family…  But I’m also a lonely curmudgeon, divorced, sarcastic, critical of society in general and most people in specific, bored, dissatisfied with life, and drink too much.  I wear all of those badges with pride, yet that doesn’t make for a healthy mind and I’m certainly no success story.

The only rationale I could offer to justify anyone taking my advice is that it’s often easier to see problems from the outside.  We can see the mistakes that others make easier than they can, easier than we can see our own.  It’s also a lot easier to give advice than it is to follow it yourself.  Healer, heal thy self.  We’re all fucked up, otherwise we probably wouldn’t be blogging, or reading blogs, to begin with.

I guess the only point to all of this is know your sources and read every piece of advice with a critical mind.  Even mine.

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6 thoughts on “CV on our sleeves

  1. Well, that is sound advice in itself. It is important to remember that what works for one, doesn’t necessarily work for the other. So one needs to pick and choose what applies to them and their situation.

  2. I realize sometimes I hate bloggers the most when I see my own faults in them – that gem of wisdom took me a bit to learn. So perhaps that is a learning experience.
    I don’t know that anyone really comes to (the majority of ) blogs to get advice. And even the so-called credentialed educators can often be wrong and not living the life that they’re preaching to.
    People read – what they take out of it is their own responsibility and completely out of the bloggers’ hands anyhow.

  3. I think that life advises us just as much as people, blogs and (of course) ourselves. Every waking moment is filled with lessons and advice. Each individual takes each tidbit and uses it the way they choose…

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