This post is a lot about me and my views on sex. I’m not writing any of this to try and build myself up or put anyone down, I’m just trying to give another perspective and/or get people (mostly guys) thinking about how they approach sex.
I read a post a little earlier about a woman’s frustration over inadequate male sexual performance. She said that most of the time the man cums and the sex is over, no matter how close (or far) the woman is from orgasm, rolls over and falls asleep. This is not an uncommon situation based on many of the posts I’ve read.
The problem tends to be that many men place all the importance of sex on the orgasm (to a lesser degree on her having one as well, it’s an ego boost). Wham, bam, thank you, ma’am. To a degree, in certain circumstances, I can understand this. If you’ve been in a long term relationship for a while, busy lives, stressed, work too much, maybe throw in a couple kids, and only have limited time and energy for sex, I can see focusing on the orgasm a bit (even still, it should be mutual). Sometimes, quickies are a lot of fun too. Git-er-done, as Larry the cable guy would say. Continue reading