Can Men and Women be friends? Online?

A couple weeks ago I read a post from a fellow blogger, Ann St. Vincent.  She’d written a post about a new guy she was seeing (Giant #3).  There were a couple things that were said in the post that tweaked my antennae.  A couple statements about the guy weren’t adding up and I had some theories as to why.

Fighting my better instincts, I decided to inject myself into the situation.

Ha!  As if I have better instincts!  That would have been a good joke for April fools, too late now though.

So, I sent an unsolicited email to Ann.  It pointed out the inconsistencies that I saw in the guy’s behavior and possible explanations.  Honestly, I figured she’d read it, think I was some weird creep, and delete it without replying.

To my surprise, within a couple hours I had a very nice response from Ann.  She already had some sense of what was going on with him and some of the things I pointed out in the message resonated with her.  Recently, she wrote another post about him, My Giant Says Thank You, and quoted some of my email.  Pretty cool.

After that first email we spent the rest of the day emailing back and forth, talking about relationships, dating, and blogging.  It turns out that Ann is a very smart, attentive, funny, articulate and interesting woman.  She read all of my older posts on Id’s Redbook, I read all of her posts on Ann St. Vincent, and we went back and forth discussing posts.  As a talented writer and interested reader she had a lot of good feedback on posts I’d written.  We both blog, she’s got a kid, I’ve got a kid, we’re both divorced, so there was a lot to talk about.

It was really nice and totally unexpected.  I had no idea when I sent that email that I would meet this cool woman.  I’d read some of her posts, but that doesn’t always paint an accurate picture of the writer.  If anything, she is way, way cooler than I would have guessed. Continue reading

Long Distance Friends With Benefits?

I’ve been having a lot of fun with this blog recently, doing amusing and entertaining posts, but I haven’t been doing a very good job of updating all of you crazy, loyal readers about the recent events in my life.  I hinted at one of those events in the Phone Sex post, but haven’t filled in any details.

I met Julie online when we signed up for the same writing workshop.  Each writer submitted something and the others provided constructive feedback.  I submitted a couple editorials/essays and she submitted a long, humorous story about a guy that she had recently dated.

With all the emails flying back and forth we started to get to know each other.  We quickly realized that we had similar senses of humor, but both of us also had strong opinions and took the writing seriously.  We also had some experiences in common and ended up exchanging a lot of non-workshop related stories.  Within a few short weeks she knew more about me than anyone else in the world.  Our deepest secrets, worries, and insecurities were laid bare for each other.

The emails started to get flirty and quickly started to escalate.  We exchanged some photos and we were mutually attracted.  We started calling, chatting, and emailing multiple times daily.  That’s where the phone sex post came from.

Awesome, right?

The problem is that we don’t live on the same continent. Continue reading

Bucket List

I’ve seen bucket lists all over the place the last couple years.  They always seemed like an interesting idea but I never really sat down and came up with one of my own.


So, without further ado, my first attempt at a bucket list (in no particular order):

01. Meet Bruce Campbell

02. Visit all 7 Continents

03. Start my own Religion.

04. Write at least one Novel.

05. Save enough money to pay for my daughter’s college.

06. Road trip from Panama all the way up to Alaska (preferably by motorcycle).

07. Take a trip down the Amazon.

08. Go on a photo safari in Africa.

09. Visit the pyramids and other wonders of the world.

10. Drunkenly stumble into a cheerleader sleepover. Continue reading