Pet Peeve #1357

I just watched the movie Lucy. Unfortunately, as good as the action scenes might have been, the entire premise of this movie irritated the shit out of me.  Had I known beforehand I never would have picked it up.

There is a common misconception that we only use 10% of our brain.  The movie plot involves a drug that lets Lucy tap into more and more of it, giving her all sorts of wild abilities.  There’s a ticker on the bottom of the screen that keeps going up until she’s using 100%.

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Two Weeks

Jeez, time flies when you’re having fun, right?  I was looking at my reader today and realized it has been almost two weeks since my last post.  Not so long ago I was posting daily, what happened?  Well, I’ve been busy writing, just not here.

Some of you know that I’ve been working on some projects that are little more involved than blog posts.  For the last two decades I’ve wanted to be a published writer and I’m finally putting in the elbow grease.  A large portion of my free time is no longer free for blogging but other progress is being made.

For the last two weeks I’ve been neck deep in a short novella (or a long short story, depending on your perspective).  It would be easy to say I’m excited about this piece but I’m excited about every piece.  Every project is a little better than the previous one, there’s always something to learn, and the next will be even better.  That’s the goal at least.

Last night I finished the first draft.  There’s something amazing about finishing a first draft, a terrific feeling that is quickly countered when I re-read it and realize how much more work still needs to be done.  But for tonight I’m basking in the warm glow of vodka and accomplishment.


Observed first date

So, I’m at the coffee shop where I normally go to write and I find myself distracted by the patrons.  This shop is never busy, that’s why I come here.  Today, there are two people in particular drawing my attention.

Have you ever seen a couple that are obviously on their first date?  Yeah…

This particular couple irritates me. I really want to walk up to this chick, shake her, and tell her to go home and lose his number.

I’ve mentioned to you readers a few times that I’m pretty good at reading people and situations, and what I see this afternoon is so irksome that it’s distracting me. Continue reading

Google backs off…

A couple days ago I wrote a post about Google changing it’s content guidelines for their Blogger site, Explicit Posts.  I copied the email they sent me about their new restrictions on explicit content.  Well, apparently I wasn’t the only person that had an opinion on the topic.

Today, I received a second email from Blogger rescinding the guideline change.

This week, you received an email telling you about some changes we were making to the Blogger Content Policy. In that email, we announced a change to Blogger’s porn policy stating that blogs that distributed sexually explicit images or graphic nudity would be made private.

We’ve received lots of feedback about making a policy change that impacts longstanding blogs and the negative impact on individuals who post sexually explicit content to express their identities.

We appreciate the feedback. Instead of making this change, we will be maintaining our existing policies.

What this means for your blog:
Commercial porn will continue to be prohibited.
If you have pornographic or sexually explicit content on your blog, you must turn on the adult content setting so a warning will show.

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A Fun Reminder

I haven’t talked about Jenn in a long, long time.  You probably don’t don’t even remember the last time I wrote about her, I know I don’t.

I met Jenn back in 2008.  I was going through a rough patch, Cat and I had just opened up our marriage and I was separated from our daughter.  Work had just moved me to the other side of the country, I didn’t know anyone so I put up a w4m CL ad for a pen pal.  It was mostly a joke, I didn’t think I’d get any good responses.  In the ad I mentioned that I’d prefer to message with an attractive woman because that would be good for my ego.  Maybe because it was written in a joking manner there were actually quite a few responses.  Jenn’s was the best.

Things started out entirely platonic, we chatted about relationships, life, and a bit about everything.  She was smart, funny, and a great pen pal.  The reason she’d responded to the ad was because she was new to the area too, she’d just moved there to be with her long term girlfriend.  And she was hot. Continue reading

Explicit posts

It seems an appropriate time to write this post as I’ve just received an email from Blogger about their new content guidelines.  (I post on both sites, Blogger and WordPress.  As far as I know, WP policies aren’t changing.)


In the coming weeks, we’ll no longer allow blogs that contain sexually explicit or graphic nude images or video. We’ll still allow nudity presented in artistic, educational, documentary, or scientific contexts, or where there are other substantial benefits to the public from not taking action on the content.

The new policy will go into effect on the 23rd of March 2015. After this policy goes into effect, Google will restrict access to any blog identified as being in violation of our revised policy. No content will be deleted, but only blog authors and those with whom they have expressly shared the blog will be able to see the content we’ve made private.

Our records indicate that your account may be affected by this policy change. Please refrain from creating new content that would violate this policy. Also, we ask that you make any necessary changes to your existing blog to comply as soon as possible, so that you won’t experience any interruptions in service. Continue reading


I don’t completely remember the train of thought, maybe it was the post looking back at 2014, but I realized something interesting today, last year was the first since the divorce that I didn’t remember my wedding anniversary.  I’ve been divorced for over three years but that date was such a big deal for so long that it was second nature.

It’s ironic, I know, for a guy but I never forgot an anniversary or Cat’s birthday, even when things weren’t going well with her.  I’m terrible, terrible with dates I should remember, I know this, so when we got married I made a serious effort to drill the numbers into my brain.  I came up with little rhymes so they were easier to recall, I used every trick I could think of and it worked, I never missed one.  There was even a debate a few years in as to our exact anniversary, she was actually a day off and it became a running joke every year.  “Are you sure it isn’t tomorrow?”

Nine months after our divorce, six months after Cat got remarried, our old anniversary rolled around.  For the first time in ten years it didn’t really mean anything but I still remembered it.  She was at her new place with her new family and I was home alone.  I sent Cat a silly text about it then proceeded to drink myself silly.

The next year I was deployed and going through a fairly tumultuous situation, a week later I’d be out of the military, but I still remembered.  I didn’t send her a text, I was overseas, but I drank myself silly before getting up at 5 am the next morning for work.  That was pretty much the norm at the time but I tipped her a salute.

The following year, I was a civilian but remembered and celebrated by drinking myself silly.  I didn’t bother sending her a message, she didn’t send me one either.  In fact, now that I’m thinking about it, she never sent me any messages, silly or not, on our old anniversary.  She’d already moved on, I suppose.  She had new dates marked on her calendar.

Last year… I didn’t remember.  It didn’t occur to me at all.  The date rolled around the same as it does every year but it was just another day.  Actually, looking back through the posts, I had just returned from a trip to see Ann, Cat was the last thing on my mind.  It’s been almost six months and I just now realized that it just passed without notice.

I suppose it’s a good thing, that old part of my life is fading away, but it also makes me a little sad.  It’s not that I’m nostalgic for my marriage, the divorce was one of the best decisions we (she) made, but it signifies the fading of that whole decade of my life.  The good and the bad.  It’s the past getting further and further away in the rear view.

I should probably also find some new dates to focus on since there won’t be any more weddings in my future.  Different anniversaries, probably, but no more marriages for me.

no marriage

Valentines Day – FML

Anyone who’s read this blog for at least a year knows how much I hate Valentines day.  For new readers: I really, really hate Valentines day.

Really, I have nothing good to say about the holiday.  If you’re single than for weeks you’re subjected to all the melodramatic commercials, TV shows, and the couples reveling in their non-singleness.  If you’re a guy in a relationship than you’re expected to “prove” your love with money, gifts, gestures, etc.  Female partners have it fairly easy, they put out and the guy is happy, but he has to solve the riddle of his better half and the stakes are his love life.  He has little to gain and everything to lose.

I’m a romantic but I hate big gestures.  My role model was my dad, who is the absolute king of small, everyday ways to demonstrate his feelings.  He takes care of everything around the house before mom asks, he remembers what she says and supports her in everything she does, he fills Mom’s car with gas, he does all sorts of little nice things to make her feel appreciated.  Of course, he had to be good at those things because he is the embodiment of the strong, silent, stoic type of guy.  He’s not going to write her poetry, sing her a song, or buy her diamonds.  A grand gesture?  His idea of one would be some flowers (maybe) or a humorous card, bringing home something to eat so she doesn’t have to cook, and letting her pick the movie for them to watch on the couch (while jokingly complaining the whole time about how “girly” it is).  My mother forgives his lack of grand romance because he’s constantly doing all the small gestures, she always feels appreciated.

When I’m in a relationship I’m just like my dad, always paying attention and doing the little things to show I care.  Then Valentines day comes along and undermines all my efforts.  It’s a holiday that basically says all the daily attention and affection I give doesn’t mean anything, to “prove” my affection I have to make some grand gesture, preferably by making an ass of myself or spending a lot of money.  Money is it’s own topic, putting a price tag on love makes me want to gag.  I’m like my dad, if you’re with me on Valentines day the most you should expect is some flowers (probably not) a humorous card (does an e-card count?), dinner (fast food), and a romantic movie (that I jokingly complain about).  Does Warm Bodies count?  Is a rom-zom-com romantic enough?

I really hate Valentines day.  If everything goes according to plan I’m going to stay home with a bottle of tequila and Netflix, probably spend all day switching between binge watching Spartacus and porn.  Take that, Hallmark!

Sick Day Music

This week has been my annual sick week.  I have a pretty tough immune system but it seems like one week every winter I catch the flu.  It isn’t a big deal but I use it as an excuse to lounge around the apartment, whine, complain, and indulge in things I usually avoid.  Like milk shakes.

I could use a little cheering up, a boost, so I decided to pull up some good tunes.
We’re going with some classics today because I recently chatter with a blogger who didn’t know who Lynyrd Skynyrd was.  Seriously.  Sweet Home Alabama?  Tuesday’s Gone?  Really?
(This is a tribute version, after the crash, it had the best audio quality.  Don’t short yourself, watch the whole thing.  If you don’t know why people yell “Free Bird” at concerts, you’ll see around the halfway mark.)

Here’s another classic, if you don’t know it than you need to seriously reevaluate your priorities.  Another nice version thanks to YouTube.

I’m going to pause here for a little rant.  When “music” involves more computers than musicians you stop finding versions of badass songs that are eleven minutes long.  This is why I can’t listen to the radio anymore, one more computerized drum track and I swear I’m going to drive into a light pole.
Another classic.  Hard to beat CCR.

Okay, a few newer-ish ones.  90’s is considered new-ish, right?  Better than the crap they play these days.


Alice in Chains off my favorite album of theirs.  The video is crazy.


Ah, the albums of my High School years.  The Aussies better recognize this next band.  I actually brought this album to my guitar teacher so we could figure out how to play this song.


Ahhhh, nostalgia.  Oh, not for those years, for the music.  What happened to music?


There are a lot of things to dislike about Creed, the lead singer’s ego and the not-so-subtle christian references to name a few, but there is one redeeming factor:  Mark Tremonti, arguably one of the best guitarists of his time.  Also, Scott Stapp offered to box Fred Durst (Limp Bizkit), which is points in their favor as far as I’m concerned.


There’s plenty of untapped material from the 90’s, Slip Knot, Stone Temple Pilots, Nirvana, System of a Down, Korn, Rage against the Machine, Deftones, Mudvayne, Sepultura, Veruca Salt, Fly leaf, and many, many more but we’re going to save those for another post.

Newer stuff?  Okay, we’ll attempt to find some newer stuff too.  Well, newer-ish.  I think these are within the last decade at least.  Mostly.

Early Shinedown.

I have a hard time admitting this, but I actually like 30 Seconds to Mars.  I know, I know, but there’s something about them that just seems slightly more authentic than most modern “bands”.  This is ironic since I have a hard time believing Jared Leto is human.  He’s too pretty and talented, he’s got to be an android from the future.

And probably the only other band that’s actually played on the radio that doesn’t make me want to change the station.

That should be plenty of music for today, I’ve managed to waste most of a sick afternoon playing on YouTube.  Hope you enjoyed the selection, and if you didn’t too bad.

A New Year

I wanted to write about Australia while the memories were still fresh (there’s still more coming) but that means that I’ve put off other posts.  Like New Years.  Usually I avoid those kind of arbitrary milestone posts because on their own they don’t really mean much.  They’re like birthdays, it’s just a number, nothing has really changed from the day before.  This year though, I actually wanted to write.

The beginning of 2014 I was bored, lonely, and indifferent about my life.  Things weren’t all bad but life was dull and without any promising prospects I didn’t have a lot of optimism for the future.  I was just kind of trudging through, surviving day to day.

The end of 2014, December 31st, I was in Australia with Sharn and a few of her friends, drinking and watching the Sydney New Years Eve fireworks on the TV.  Like usual, I did a mental review of the year and was surprised at just how crazy 2014 was.  Most of my year-end reviews don’t have much to comment on but 2014 was different.  There were so many ups and downs and all-arounds.  Good, bad, and just about everything in between. Continue reading